Stuart Gray

comment by Stoopo (U4707)
posted 14 minutes ago
comment by Jonty (U4614)
posted 3 minutes ago
I really can't imagine what it must be like to have to say goodbye to your child.
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Sad news indeed.

42 years ago yesterday we went through it. Kelly was only 3 months old and it was the worst time of our lives. However to lose a child after 50 years is, as you say, unimaginable. We have two boys, 43 and 40 and losing either would be devastating.

Nobody should lose a child in a perfect world.

RIP Stuart
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Really sorry to hear.....

PMy heart goes out to Eddie, and his family, who will have been suffering with Stuart throughout his battle with cancer. It is a dreadful disease and takes so many men, women and children before their time. We have cancer sufferers on this site, and many of us have friends and family who are sufferers, survivors, or have succumbed to it. Two of my family friends are enduring the cycle of chemo and radiation therapy. Thanks for putting up this post, Jonty, it’s important for us to acknowledge the suffering of a family whose contribution to our club is immense.

Stoopo (U4707)
posted 24 minutes ago

comment by Jonty (U4614)
posted 3 minutes ago
I really can't imagine what it must be like to have to say goodbye to your child.
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Sad news indeed.

42 years ago yesterday we went through it. Kelly was only 3 months old and it was the worst time of our lives. However to lose a child after 50 years is, as you say, unimaginable. We have two boys, 43 and 40 and losing either would be devastating.

Nobody should lose a child in a perfect world.

RIP Stuart

comment by Stoopo (U4707)
posted 9 hours, 53 minutes ago
comment by Jonty (U4614)
posted 3 minutes ago
I really can't imagine what it must be like to have to say goodbye to your child.
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Sad news indeed.

42 years ago yesterday we went through it. Kelly was only 3 months old and it was the worst time of our lives. However to lose a child after 50 years is, as you say, unimaginable. We have two boys, 43 and 40 and losing either would be devastating.

Nobody should lose a child in a perfect world.

RIP Stuart
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I’m so sorry for your loss, mate. The game’s not straight.

Cheers guys. It does get easier with the years but we always have that “what would she be like now?” And of course Mrs Stoop has missed out massively not having a daughter to bounce off and go shopping with.

We did have our second boy straight after, even though our doctor warned us not to. To be honest it was the best thing we ever did. Then we had the worry of him thinking that without Kelly dying he might never have been born. We’ve discussed this recently and he said he did think about when he was younger but looked on it as a blessing from his sister.

As I said, it gets easier with the years flying by but it’s always there.

Sorry I’ve hijacked this thread.

I’ll leave it there now.

Stoopo, that's gut wrenching to read mate.
I can't even begin to imagine that pain. Heart
goes out to you and your Wife, family.

Same for Eddie. Just sad news all round.

Really sad for the family and I wish them all the best.

I can only speak from my own personal experience but I hate it when people refer to having a cancer as a "fight with cancer"

For me it was as simple as, "this is what is wrong with your body, this is the treatment we will be giving you, this is your chance of survival."

I wasn't fighting cancer, I had cancer and I was getting treatment for it, that's it.

I hate the cancer "fight" narrative because to me it lessens the person, there are people who had the same cancer as me who didn't recover but its not cause I had more fight than them or they were weak and lost.

Sometimes treatment works, sometimes it doesn't and that not cause the person didn't have enough fight in them.

Like I said, just my view and I'd never tell someone who views it as a fight as being wrong.

comment by Mattyp (U8926)
posted 50 minutes ago

Really sad for the family and I wish them all the best.

I can only speak from my own personal experience but I hate it when people refer to having a cancer as a "fight with cancer"

For me it was as simple as, "this is what is wrong with your body, this is the treatment we will be giving you, this is your chance of survival."

I wasn't fighting cancer, I had cancer and I was getting treatment for it, that's it.

I hate the cancer "fight" narrative because to me it lessens the person, there are people who had the same cancer as me who didn't recover but its not cause I had more fight than them or they were weak and lost.

Sometimes treatment works, sometimes it doesn't and that not cause the person didn't have enough fight in them.

Like I said, just my view and I'd never tell someone who views it as a fight as being wrong.

^^^

A few things outside of football/LUFC stick in my
mind regards ja. Losing harj and then High. Stoopo's post on here. And your news post cancer. It's still
one of the best pieces of news I've read on here.

So sorry for Eddie and his family. Their pain is unimaginable.
I lost a relative in the summer from very similar circumstances. When the cancer was diagnosed it was stage 4 and too late for any treatment. I still haven’t come to terms with it.

Thanks, Stoopo and Matt, for sharing your experiences with us, and for reminding us that we cannot take our lives, or the lives of those we love, for granted. We have different points of view on this site, but we are all human beings, who go through ups and downs all the time. No matter how often Leeds let us down, it’s the people we love, and those who love us, who matter most of all.